Affirm+Worry Less

10/18/10:00 am

Hey Survivors,

Let the worries of the day force you to win today. Temporary concerns will shift your focus in order for you to be present in this teachable moment. Take away the good, leave the bad and keep moving forward.

What did you learn from your last worry?

With Hugs and Love,


{A Survivor’s Heart} Still Standing & Stepping Out, The Purple Affair

Hey Survivors,

I had the pleasure of attending a phenomenal event to kickoff National Domestic Violence Awareness Month on Saturday.

The 6th Annual Purple Affair was hosted by visionary Tamiko Lowry-Pugh, the founder of The Still Standing Foundation located in Atlanta, GA.   Tamiko wears many hats as an author, empowerment speaker, book publisher, domestic violence expert, legislative advocate, mom, wife, sister and is a friend to many who have crossed her path.

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As a survivor of domestic violence, she has accepted God’s assignment to lead other victims down the path of hope and healing.  She will not only guide your journey but fight for you every step of the way.

This annual event is an extension of her dedication and love for the fight. Let’s paint the night purple!!!

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Meet the beautiful Tamiko Lowry-Pugh

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Tamiko and hubby Kenny Pugh

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Meet the beautiful co-host Aurea McGarry, domestic violence Sur-thriver

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Aurea McGarry and Hubby

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Meet songtress Angelica Monroe Boudreau

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The beautiful ladies and their handsome hubby

Next are the co authors of the newly release Wounds to Wisdom…The Survivors Series Volume 1.

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Some of the beautiful co authors.

Thank you ladies for sharing your stories of survival.

The handsome co author

Thank you for being the voice for the men dealing with domestic violence as well.

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Co- Host Yamma Brown Alexander of the James Brown Family Foundation is wearing this dress!!

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Tamiko and The Still Standing Foundation team

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What I loved the most about this event was the sea of smiles and support for a very important epidemic in our community.   This fundraiser/gala was full of beautiful individuals standing up, showing up and being humbly recognized for being the voice for the voiceless.

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This last photo I believe is the most powerful one of them all.  The signatures of survivors who have made the decision to stand for one more day.

This topic hits home for me as I watched my mom get beat to a bloody pulp daily by my dad as a child.  Although I was too small to stop him from hurting her I am now big enough to fight against people like him from hurting others.

If you would like to learn more about how to become a supporter please click the link

Thank you Tamiko and The Still Standing Foundation for all you do.

Until next time survivors…

Remember we are only alive to live this journey one time so let’s

make the best of it!!


The Search of Self outside {Survivor’s Affirmation}

Repeat after me….

I am searching for my greatness inside of me.
When I tap into it I will accept and receive all the blessings that follow.
Thank you Lord for reminding me that I am enough.

What affirmation is guiding you through today?

Salute to the Savior Sunday {Gratitude}

Gratitude: To express appreciation or give thanks for a gift or gesture.

A Survivor’s Prayer:

Heavenly Father,

Thank you for this day.
I surrender to you today my will in order to fulfill your Will.
I thank you for yesterday blessings. I thank you for today’s blessings and I look forward to tomorrow’s blessings
Heavenly Father.

Thank you for not only trusting me and making me accountability for the life you have given me to live.
But also thank you for giving me the truth to push through this life every single day.
I love you for all that you do and all you will continue to do.
In your name
I pray

What are you grateful for today?

{Living Truthfully} Fear..Thanks for keeping me safe

Journey Day 4: Being molested not only changed my life but the way I would think from that day forward.

Which explains why I think so much. ALL THE TIMES!! It’s a blessing when it’s ideas but a curse followed by assumptions.

One of my most consistent conversing sessions during that time with myself sounded a lot like this:

“Kell, you gave him PERMISSION to hurt you by letting him into the core of you. From this day forward, you keep your dreams, desires and happiness to yourself.”  Signed….FEAR

Fast forward 2o something years….

This is why I have become so comfortable not living up to my potential.

This is why I am so comfortable with living in my ideas and scared to implement.


From the moment I learned to read, I always loved learning.  I loved to read self-help and business books.  I developed wisdom very early in my life but I was still afraid.

As a teenager, the Small Business Magazine is where I dreamed the most.img_20170126_104338

I struggle everyday with telling fear I am ready to be a little uncomfortable to find out what fulfillment looks like for me in the business arena.

Which has been and still is ….One of my BIGGEST DESIRES!!

“So while I appreciate you protecting me as a child from never being molestated again. I think it’s time for us to part for a minute.

I think it’s time for me to grow.”

Signed ….Living As Lakell

Survivor’s Journaling Assignment: What is fear keeping you from?

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{Why Wednesday} Living in the Why

Journey Day Three: I restarted this blog for many reasons. First, I needed somewhere for my writing legacy to live. Second, I love being the voice of a sexual abuse survivor because sometimes we forget we now have the freedom to speak our truth about our daily struggles. Last by not least, I created this because of my nephew, Monta.


For years, my sister and I would drop him off at the babysitter, his great aunt. We had no idea that she was touching in him inappropriately until he was old enough to speak.  We didn’t find out until he was five. My heart broke into a million pieces.  I felt so bad that I was the one who kept dropping him off to her.  I felt so, so bad.

From that day forward,  as I’ve watched him experience the same struggles I’ve experienced growing up as a victim of child molestation myself  I wanted to help him now.  RIGHT NOW!!!  So I’ve secretly promised myself and God if I don’t have a strong enough why for myself to keep pushing this forward, I will ALWAYS do it for him.

I love you Monta!!!

With Hugs and Love,

Auntie Kelly

Survivor’s Journaling Assignment:  Why do you breathe every day? What is keeps you pushing forward?

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