How do you rate your happy?


Hey Survivors,

Have you ever really took the time to sit with your emotions?  Do you know what your happy feels like and when you are living in it the most? If your answer is no, let’s see what we can do about that right now:)

I have learned that emotions have a life as well.  They can control you negatively or positively based on the decision you make after the feeling is executed.  It’s all up to you.

For me I have started becoming more aware of how I really feel due to me active involvement in daily journaling.  Journaling is so much more than just writing.

But that’s another blog for another day 🙂

Today I would like to discuss how you rate your happy.   Do you wait for someone to let you know if your happy or do you control your own happiness? Yes, No or maybe:)

Here is a mini journaling assignment I do to remind myself to live in the moment with my emotions right now.


Here is a sample of my journaling assignment for today:

I am happiest when my heart feels….








The lesson I gained from today’s assignment is that paying attention to my heart determines how I show up in my today.

I challenge you to do yourself a favor tonight and complete this assignment.  Let me know if it was helpful for you as well.

So until next time…Remember you are alive to live!!

With Hugs and Love,


Pssst… Did you show up for your happy today?

11 ways to feel your Heart’s Desire Lines

When your heart and desires align you will feel…

1. Unlimited energy to work until you fall asleep.
2. New thoughts and ideas will accompany the desire.
3. Moment of joy which is the auntie to happiness.

4. Your higher power’s nudge to keep going
5. Clarity to clear your memories bank’s pathway to your next step.
6. The need to take action naturally without second guessing.
7. Self-validation to grow now.
8. New energy given by the people waiting to help you fulfill this desire.
9. It’s time to put the whole YOU first while accepting all your the flaws
10. That the word “No” is self-love.
11. The need to smile involuntarily.

I hope you enjoy and grow from this list of confirmation that you are on the right track.

How do you know when your heart is aligned with your desires?

{Living Truthfully} Fear..Thanks for keeping me safe

Journey Day 4: Being molested not only changed my life but the way I would think from that day forward.

Which explains why I think so much. ALL THE TIMES!! It’s a blessing when it’s ideas but a curse followed by assumptions.

One of my most consistent conversing sessions during that time with myself sounded a lot like this:

“Kell, you gave him PERMISSION to hurt you by letting him into the core of you. From this day forward, you keep your dreams, desires and happiness to yourself.”  Signed….FEAR

Fast forward 2o something years….

This is why I have become so comfortable not living up to my potential.

This is why I am so comfortable with living in my ideas and scared to implement.


From the moment I learned to read, I always loved learning.  I loved to read self-help and business books.  I developed wisdom very early in my life but I was still afraid.

As a teenager, the Small Business Magazine is where I dreamed the most.img_20170126_104338

I struggle everyday with telling fear I am ready to be a little uncomfortable to find out what fulfillment looks like for me in the business arena.

Which has been and still is ….One of my BIGGEST DESIRES!!

“So while I appreciate you protecting me as a child from never being molestated again. I think it’s time for us to part for a minute.

I think it’s time for me to grow.”

Signed ….Living As Lakell

Survivor’s Journaling Assignment: What is fear keeping you from?

Do me a favor…Reach back and share this post with one person today:)


{A Survivor’s Life} Living with Self Love

Self -Love is not selfish when it’s about YOU! Feed your Soul


Survivor’s Journaling Assignment: What are you feeding your mind today?

Do me Favor: Reach back and Share this with one person today:)


{Why Wednesday} Living in the Why

Journey Day Three: I restarted this blog for many reasons. First, I needed somewhere for my writing legacy to live. Second, I love being the voice of a sexual abuse survivor because sometimes we forget we now have the freedom to speak our truth about our daily struggles. Last by not least, I created this because of my nephew, Monta.


For years, my sister and I would drop him off at the babysitter, his great aunt. We had no idea that she was touching in him inappropriately until he was old enough to speak.  We didn’t find out until he was five. My heart broke into a million pieces.  I felt so bad that I was the one who kept dropping him off to her.  I felt so, so bad.

From that day forward,  as I’ve watched him experience the same struggles I’ve experienced growing up as a victim of child molestation myself  I wanted to help him now.  RIGHT NOW!!!  So I’ve secretly promised myself and God if I don’t have a strong enough why for myself to keep pushing this forward, I will ALWAYS do it for him.

I love you Monta!!!

With Hugs and Love,

Auntie Kelly

Survivor’s Journaling Assignment:  Why do you breathe every day? What is keeps you pushing forward?

Please share this post with one person today:) Thank you!!

{A Survivor’s Life} Living with Clear Vision

Journey Day Two: This past Saturday I attended my Annual Vision Board party  at my friend’s house. This is serious business for the ladies and I because we get to be creative.  A house full of creatives is nothing but a good time in the making.  This party is like no other.  


We start off with Ms. Monica, my friend’s mom explaining and preparing our mind for the process of building our visual manifestation board.  She takes the time to research worksheets and articles that will prepare our mind and give it permission in this moment to dream.  She helps us leave our problems and stresses at the door and only worry about us for the next couple of hours.  We are completely present and engaged to begin our project.


I begin the process of searching through magazines, agreeing with my eyes, and cutting out the necessary images and sayings to piece thought my vision together.  This is extremely therapeutic and freeing for me.


Our great talks went together well with the delicious food served.  Two types of chili, pumpkin muffins and strawberry shortcake for dessert!! Yes!! Yes!!  I love doing things like this for myself with people I love and care about.


At the end of the night, we speak out loud our vision to one another so we can all  come to an agreement to push and help each other along the way. Everyone needs support especially when you are on God’s path and no longer your own.

With Hugs and Love,


Survivor’s Journaling Assignment:  Get out your journal right now and answer this question. What is keeping you from clearly seeing your vision?